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Relationships Are an Invitation 

Through the mirror of a relationship we discover where we’re imprisoned.  Listen: the truth is already operating in how you behave, how you treat people,

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Why Don’t I Get to Have Love?

The real reason we don’t get the relationship or love we crave.  The number one reason why we don’t create the relationship we’ve always wanted

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They Stopped Texting and Turned Cold

What to do when a connection disappears. Recently, a friend told me they were messaging back and forth with a new person, experiencing a great

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Am I Ready for a Relationship?

How to know when you’re healed and ready to love again.  Some of us never let ourselves have love again. Some of us refuse to

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How to Stay True to You

Anything that numbs us is really treating the pain of misalignment and the pain of silencing our own expression. It can be sex, drugs, alcohol,

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I’m Not Attracted to My Partner Anymore

How Do I Get the Spark Back? You know the saying, “Nice guys finish last?” That myth came to mind after someone reached out asking

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How to Wake Up & Take Control of Your Life

Ready for some real talk? Ready to raise the bar with me? Because I’m done shrinking, staying small, limiting my growth, and playing it safe

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Why Won’t They Just End It?

They slowly stopped replying and started being flakey, but why won’t they end it?  Mixed signals can be super confusing. You found someone you enjoy

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Do I Text Too Much, or Are They Being Avoidant?

How to tell if you’re overdoing it. In a secure relationship, security is defined like this: my partner’s needs matter as much as my own

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When I Like Someone I Get SO Anxiously Attached

Why do you get anxious when you really like someone? Speaking straight from my personal experience on this one! When I was dating and actually

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We Were Only Casual But I Caught Feelings and Now I Can’t Move On!

I’m using a ton of mental energy wishing things were different, and want to refocus that energy on myself.  Most of us have been there:

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Why Does My Partner Keep Hiding Their Phone?

They’re nearly perfect, but their habit of hiding their phone from me is eroding trust in our relationship.  Question: I’m dating someone who’s near perfect

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Is It OK to Ask Someone How Many Sexual Partners They’ve Had?

And the less common question: Why do you want to know?  In a 1996 stand-up bit, Chris Rock advises men to never ask a woman

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Can I Ignore Small Red Flags Early in a Relationship?

And how to tell whether or not something is a dealbreaker. We’ve all been there: you meet someone new, there’s an amazing connection, and they

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Should I Confront Someone Who Ghosted Me?

They ghosted me after we had sex. Is it worth it to reach out? Let’s say you meet someone and there’s a great connection. You’re

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How Long Should You Wait Before Having Sex?

Let’s finally settle the age-old question of when to sleep with a new partner. First thing’s first: You can take all the time you need

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He Wouldn’t Make Us Official for Over Two Years

The guy I’m seeing did not want to put a label on it. What gives?! QUESTION: Recently, a member of the Create the Love community

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What Should I Do If They’re Slow to Text Back?

How to tell if someone’s slow replies are a red flag or a deal-breaker. A member of the Create the Love community sent in a

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Why Did My Ex Move on So Fast?

We just broke up and they’re already gushing about their new SO all over social media. Years ago, I went through a breakup and ran

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Breakup Sex or Makeup Sex?

You broke up, but they still reach out every few weeks for a hookup. What gives? You and your ex broke up, but they reach

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Why Do Empaths Attract Narcissists?

Psychotherapist Terri Cole helps answer this age-old question. One of the best parts of my job is connecting with and learning from some seriously inspiring

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Nothing Is Ever ‘Good Enough’ In My Relationship

The simple shift you can make to transform your relationships.  You can change your relationships immediately by doing this one thing. It doesn’t even matter

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Is It Too Soon To Say “I Love You”?

If you find yourself falling deeply in love right out the gate, you might want to read this. When is it too soon to say

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Why Do I Keep Getting Ghosted?

What should I do if someone ghosts me after we sleep together? I read every question that comes through my inbox, and answer as many