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We Were Only Casual But I Caught Feelings and Now I Can’t Move On!

I’m using a ton of mental energy wishing things were different, and want to refocus that energy on myself.  Most of us have been there:

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Why Does My Partner Keep Hiding Their Phone?

They’re nearly perfect, but their habit of hiding their phone from me is eroding trust in our relationship.  Question: I’m dating someone who’s near perfect

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Is It OK to Ask Someone How Many Sexual Partners They’ve Had?

And the less common question: Why do you want to know?  In a 1996 stand-up bit, Chris Rock advises men to never ask a woman

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Can I Ignore Small Red Flags Early in a Relationship?

And how to tell whether or not something is a dealbreaker. We’ve all been there: you meet someone new, there’s an amazing connection, and they

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Should I Confront Someone Who Ghosted Me?

They ghosted me after we had sex. Is it worth it to reach out? Let’s say you meet someone and there’s a great connection. You’re

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How Long Should You Wait Before Having Sex?

Let’s finally settle the age-old question of when to sleep with a new partner. First thing’s first: You can take all the time you need

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He Wouldn’t Make Us Official for Over Two Years

The guy I’m seeing did not want to put a label on it. What gives?! QUESTION: Recently, a member of the Create the Love community

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What Should I Do If They’re Slow to Text Back?

How to tell if someone’s slow replies are a red flag or a deal-breaker. A member of the Create the Love community sent in a

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Why Did My Ex Move on So Fast?

We just broke up and they’re already gushing about their new SO all over social media. Years ago, I went through a breakup and ran

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Breakup Sex or Makeup Sex?

You broke up, but they still reach out every few weeks for a hookup. What gives? You and your ex broke up, but they reach

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Why Do Empaths Attract Narcissists?

Psychotherapist Terri Cole helps answer this age-old question. One of the best parts of my job is connecting with and learning from some seriously inspiring

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Nothing Is Ever ‘Good Enough’ In My Relationship

The simple shift you can make to transform your relationships.  You can change your relationships immediately by doing this one thing. It doesn’t even matter

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Is It Too Soon To Say “I Love You”?

If you find yourself falling deeply in love right out the gate, you might want to read this. When is it too soon to say

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Why Do I Keep Getting Ghosted?

What should I do if someone ghosts me after we sleep together? I read every question that comes through my inbox, and answer as many

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Are We Ever Too Old To Find Great Love Again?

When we get to our seat on a plane, it can feel a lot like a game of Russian Roulette. We never know who our

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Why Does He Follow Instagram Models?

I don’t understand why my partner follows sexually-explicit accounts on Instagram and I’m not sure what to do. Help! Let’s say you start dating someone

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How Do I Stop Over Pursuing?

They’re not interested but I can’t seem to stop chasing. She asked, “How do I choose myself when I’m chasing a guy who isn’t choosing

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Why Would They Cheat in a Good Marriage?

Betrayal and infidelity leaves most of us wondering, “why?” If you type “why did they cheat on me” into Google, there are 259 million results.

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Did I Overreact & End a Good Relationship?

I got reactive and prematurely ended my relationship!  Have you ever pulled the plug on a relationship and wondered whether you overreacted? Many people write

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I’m Still Not Over Them

It’s been two years and I’m still caught up on my ex. What gives? You’re probably familiar with the phrase, “Time heals all wounds.” And

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Why Does My Ex Still Watch My Social Media?

We live in an age of near-constant connectivity, and people often write to me and ask what it means when their ex continues to engage

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Self-love, WTF does that even mean?!

A couple of years ago I was in Shavasanna after a pretty intense Kundalini class… for the non-yoga doers, I was basically just laying down

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Am I ready to date?

How do we know when we’re ready to date after a breakup? There’s no exact sign or moment, and there’s a lot to process after

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Why you can’t let go of your ex (and how to)

So you’re attached to someone. Maybe you two dated for awhile. Maybe you dated and kinda skipped over the whole relationship part. Doesn’t matter. What