By choosing your way into your most authentic self. Your values guide your life. So, if you make good choices, you will love your life.

Should I stay or leave? You’ve likely heard me talk about alignment in the context of relationship’s early phases. Getting into them. And ensuring that

Does that mean we still have a chance? Breakups are tough enough as it is. But social media often multiplies the misery. I get questions

Learn to stop settling for less in love. This is an epiphany I wish everyone looking for love could instantly download: When you’re not a

How to resolve conflicting attachment styles. If you find yourself co-creating anxious/avoidant cycles with your partner(s), this one’s for you. This is a big question

Was I not enough for them? Here’s a pattern you see a lot in breakups: You’re in a relationship with someone who’s emotionally unavailable. You

​​I once went through a breakup that I saw coming… When the conversation finally happened, she said, “…but I’d really love to still be friends.”

Through the mirror of a relationship we discover where we’re imprisoned.  Listen: the truth is already operating in how you behave, how you treat people,

The real reason we don’t get the relationship or love we crave.  The number one reason why we don’t create the relationship we’ve always wanted

What to do when a connection disappears. Recently, a friend told me they were messaging back and forth with a new person, experiencing a great

How to know when you’re healed and ready to love again.  Some of us never let ourselves have love again. Some of us refuse to

Anything that numbs us is really treating the pain of misalignment and the pain of silencing our own expression. It can be sex, drugs, alcohol,

How Do I Get the Spark Back? You know the saying, “Nice guys finish last?” That myth came to mind after someone reached out asking

Ready for some real talk? Ready to raise the bar with me? Because I’m done shrinking, staying small, limiting my growth, and playing it safe

They slowly stopped replying and started being flakey, but why won’t they end it?  Mixed signals can be super confusing. You found someone you enjoy

How to tell if you’re overdoing it. In a secure relationship, security is defined like this: my partner’s needs matter as much as my own

Why do you get anxious when you really like someone? Speaking straight from my personal experience on this one! When I was dating and actually

I’m using a ton of mental energy wishing things were different, and want to refocus that energy on myself.  Most of us have been there:

They’re nearly perfect, but their habit of hiding their phone from me is eroding trust in our relationship.  Question: I’m dating someone who’s near perfect

And the less common question: Why do you want to know?  In a 1996 stand-up bit, Chris Rock advises men to never ask a woman

And how to tell whether or not something is a dealbreaker. We’ve all been there: you meet someone new, there’s an amazing connection, and they

They ghosted me after we had sex. Is it worth it to reach out? Let’s say you meet someone and there’s a great connection. You’re

Let’s finally settle the age-old question of when to sleep with a new partner. First thing’s first: You can take all the time you need

The guy I’m seeing did not want to put a label on it. What gives?! QUESTION: Recently, a member of the Create the Love community